Sexting is kind of an art form—part flirtation, part fantasy, and very much foreplay. Done well, it’s an easy, low-pressure way to build connection, stir anticipation, and remind someone exactly what you’re thinking about when they’re not around.
But let’s be real: it can also feel awkward if you’re not sure what to say—or worse, you’re overthinking every word. That’s where this guide comes in.
Here are 10 simple, steamy, and actually good sexting tips—plus some copy-paste-worthy examples to help you keep it smooth, sexy, and completely cringe-free.
Here are 10 simple, steamy, and actually good sexting tips
1. Start with Subtle
You don’t have to dive straight into full-blown NSFW territory. A soft tease or casual innuendo can be even more effective than something explicit.
Try this:
“Wish you were here right now… the bed feels kind of empty.”
“Just got out of the shower. Everything’s warm but me.”
2. Create a Little Tension
Great sexting builds like a slow burn. Think of it as storytelling—set the scene, leave room for imagination, and don’t give it all away too fast.
Try this:
“If I sent you a picture right now… would you behave?”
“I had a dream about you last night. Want to know what happened?”
3. Bring in the Senses
The most seductive messages aren’t always explicit—they’re immersive. Think textures, tastes, the kind of detail that lingers. Sometimes it’s not what you say, it’s what you make them feel.
Try this:
“I was thinking about you, so I left something sweet at your door… let me know when you unwrap it.”
“Shall we each take a piece now and see where the conversation goes?”
“Just had a bite of that chocolate I sent you. Still not sure if I want to eat the rest… or save it for when you’re here.”
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4. Use Callbacks to Shared Moments
Reference something you’ve already done together (or want to revisit). It makes sexting feel more personal—and a lot hotter.
Try this:
“Thinking about that time in the kitchen… and how we never made it to dessert.”
“Same playlist, same couch. Just missing you.”
5. Ask Open-Ended Questions
Sexting is a two-way street. Ask something that invites them to play along—and get creative.
Try this:
“If I were in your bed right now, what would you do first?”
“Talk me through exactly how you’d undress me.”
6. Voice Notes = Game Changer
Sometimes your voice says more than a message ever could. A soft “I want you” or breathy “I miss the way you taste” can send them spiraling—in a good way.
7. Confidence > Corniness
You don’t need to sound like a poet. You just need to own what you’re saying. When your tone is confident, everything reads hotter.
Try this:
“You’ve been on my mind all day. I’m not even pretending anymore.”
“You have no idea what I want to do to you right now. Or maybe you do.”
8. Be Playful, Not Pressure-y
Consent is sexy. Curiosity is sexy. A good sext feels like an invitation, not an expectation. Keep it light, open, and pressure-free.
Try this:
“I’ve got something I want to show you later… if you’re up for it.”
“Tell me your dirtiest thought. No judgement—promise.”
9. Tease Real Life Plans
Sexting can be a great prelude to IRL intimacy. Drop a hint about what’s coming (literally and figuratively).
Try this:
“I have plans for you tonight. Clear your schedule and maybe your clothes.”
“Let’s skip dinner and go straight to dessert. I’ve got chocolate and no shame.”
10. Don’t Overthink It
If you’re nervous, say that. If it’s new for you, own it. Sexting should feel fun, not forced. And honestly? A little vulnerability can be incredibly attractive.
Try this:
“Not gonna lie, I feel a bit shy sending this… but also very turned on.”
“This might be bold, but I’ve been thinking about you. In detail.”
TL;DR: Sexting Is Modern Foreplay—Make It Yours
At the end of the day, sexting isn’t about being “good at it”—it’s about being into it. Whether you’re sending a subtle tease, a suggestive question, or a literal photo of Playmate Chocolate with a “save room for dessert” caption, it’s the energy that matters most.
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